If you ask a man what his greatest fear is, he is unlikely to say “death.” Death is final, abstract, and often distant. What many men fear more—quietly, deeply, and constantly—is uselessness. The fear of no longer being needed. Of having no function. Of existing without value. Comedian Chris Rock once captured this reality in a...
In South Africa today, a quiet crisis is unfolding—one that rarely trends, rarely mobilises donors, and rarely earns political urgency. It is the slow erosion of the boy child. This is not a reactionary argument, nor a dismissal of the very real gains made in advancing girls and women since 1994. Those interventions were necessary,...
What happens when a man who was once celebrated for his strength, skill, and purpose is suddenly told he is no longer needed? This is the reality that The Incredibles’ Bob Parr—better known as Mr. Incredible—faces when superheroes are forced into retirement. Once at the peak of his career, Bob is reduced to an ordinary life,...
There is a trend that I’m noticing that’s happening within relationships. Women are complaining that men don’t approach them anymore and men are not really interested in relationships. I didn’t think much of it at first but I started speaking to a couple of single men and realised this is a growing trend. I know...
Men have a special relationship with the ones who cut their hair. What makes the corner barber special is how therapeutic the chair is, the advice he gives and the fact that he just lends an ear to his clients. Sometimes men just want to talk about their lived experiences. Men don’t go to the barbershop...
Sigh. I’m going to get into a lot of trouble for this. I know some women already have their left hooks ready and feminists are flexing their muscles. I’ll start by saying all this is my opinion and I always stand to be corrected and ladies, we love you ;)
In my 34 years on this planet I have come to believe this: Men love harder than women, yes women tolerate more than men do, but a man’s love for a woman is one of the purest things you will ever witness. It’s not a “just because I am lonely” type of love or “just because she loves me type of love” , no – it’s untainted, pure and genuine.
One is told about equal rights and partnerships yet the patriarchal roles of men “bringing home the bacon” still persist. Being a man is tough enough on its own without the issues of also needing to worry about making more money than your partner, who in these times of women finally getting recognized and almost...
Personally, I don’t know if prayer helps in finding a better partner compared to making better decisions when you choose a partner.
There are many rules, and at the same time you have to make your own rules. Whatever the case, there are some age-old truths for men that have stood the test of time. 1. No one is coming to save you The day you realize this is the day your freedom starts. Not a person....