Life is unpredictable and there will come a time when the inevitable passing of a loved one hits you when you least expect it. When that morbid and dark cloud sets foot on your doorstep, you need to embrace it, as hard and as emotionally taxing as it may be. As men, we are taught...
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An Apology To My First Real Love
It is often said that there’s no love like the First Real Love. The rollercoaster ride that comes with your first love peaks at a lofty height and even draws you towards dangerous waters. Although it’s all picket fences and roses at first, there comes a time when the thin line between love and hate...
Why Tough Love Is Necessary
Lately, I find myself reflecting on my personal journey as umjita, and more often than it is required; I relish at the indelible fact that, some things are painful but necessary…like tough love. Depending on who and how it is exerted, tough love can be your ally in turbulent times. Luckily for me, I have...
I am Here To Dream Again, I am Here to Start Again …
The Covid pandemic and its effects were a lot on most of us and many of us have never been through a pandemic before. We also lost a lot of people during that period which is still heavy on us to this day. My first child was born during the peak of the pandemic, which...
Healing For Your Children, And Children’s Children
Today is my Dad’s birthday. I took this picture a few weeks ago. I was walking past and noticed Thing 2 and her dad watching TV. First I gave myself an internal High 5, and then I took the picture. You see, I have never had such a moment with my dad. I was terrified...
How to Handle a Lifestyle Downgrade
Petrol is now at R22 a liter and it’s said it will reach R40 soon. A lot of South Africans do not have much to downgrade from their lifestyle but there are many more, like you, who can make a few adjustments to handle the rising prices of EVERYTHING. We all go through times in...
12 Hard Truths For Young Men
There are many rules, and at the same time you have to make your own rules. Whatever the case, there are some age-old truths for men that have stood the test of time. 1. No one is coming to save you The day you realize this is the day your freedom starts. Not a person....
9 Men’s Mental Health Lessons for Your 30s
1. You are number one in any relationship. And NO! You not being selfish, it is the ultimate form of love. Taking of yourself, making decisions that best suit you enables you to trust yourself, and if you fail you’ll learn without blaming and hurting anyone. 2. You are not late for anything and not...
To Ask A Black Man How He’s Doing Has Become Taboo. You Good, Man?
As things stand today, to ask a black man how he’s doing has become taboo. To ask a black man how he’s doing is seen as an insult to those who suffer at the hands of a black man. It is to suggest that the world doesn’t have bigger problems and all must be cast aside to attend to the fragile
First Born Sons Are Not Substitute Husband For Negligent, Abusive or Absent Fathers.
There’s a certain type of mother wound that hits first born sons, hard, and their pain is not acknowledged. If anything we have coined the derogative term “mama’s boy” and use it as a blanket to silence and mock their suffering. See, many women unfortunately find themselves raising children without the aid of a supportive...