Most Friday mornings, the house is filled with alarms, water running, crying and grumbling, and a stern voice shouting for children to bath, brush their teeth, have their breakfasts and get ready to leave for school. This Friday morning, however, there was a very different energy, one that you could almost reach out a pat...
Category: Fatherhood
Expect Nothing, When one finds out they are pregnant …
When one finds out they are pregnant, I don’t care who you are, and fear kicks in. For some reason, you think your life is over and you don’t have weekends filled with reckless drinking and “awesome” stories to tell. To tell the truth, your life is over but an amazing, crazy, confusing, fear-filled, and...
My Relationship With My Father…
I had always painted my relationship with my father as this beautiful perfect picture. I remember when my little brother was born, the excitement on his face was so visible and contagious. I was just excited that I had someone to play with. My dad had always wanted boys and from what I was told,...
Daddy Issues (Part 2)
I suppose, to understand the concept of Daddy Issues we should head back to where it might have begun. But before we go there, let’s establish what is actually classified as DI. The symptoms, there be plenty of them, but what of the actual condition? In my opinion, Daddy Issues are a result of a...
Daddy Issues (Part 1)
By Daddy Issues, I’m actually talking about the issues that men who have fathered children face and possess. I have talked about the concept of broken fathers in Black Father Syndrome. The elephant in the room is how did they become like this.
Why Its Easier For Men To Leave Their Child and Baby Mama Behind
Certain situations are easier to judge when you are on the outside looking in. I’ve always been judgmental to men who leave their kids behind and never create a bond with them. I’ve always perceived life from a place of privilege because I had both parents until the end and obviously had no understanding of...
Building Resilience In Our Children
There’s a difficult conversation that needs to be had in relation to parenting and it’s about resilience. The actual word that I want to use it hardship but we’ll get to that. For those who don’t have kids, here’s how online parenting advice works. The people who are most vocal about giving parenting advice are...
Letters To My Son (Part 1)
The Birth of a Father When I first thought about writing this, it was just after midnight. The computer I was busy on glowed a soft, dim light into my bedroom as I watched you sleep. You had passed out on my bed and I was too lazy to carry you to yours. It was...
Healing For Your Children, And Children’s Children
Today is my Dad’s birthday. I took this picture a few weeks ago. I was walking past and noticed Thing 2 and her dad watching TV. First I gave myself an internal High 5, and then I took the picture. You see, I have never had such a moment with my dad. I was terrified...
Dads on Marriage/Relationships After Kids
The arrival of kids comes with a seismic shift of every facet of your life, especially your marriage and or relationship. Couples must react to the new pace of life and work out new ways to keep relationships intact. How have you struck a balance in your