There is a trend that I’m noticing that’s happening within relationships. Women are complaining that men don’t approach them anymore and men are not really interested in relationships. I didn’t think much of it at first but I started speaking to a couple of single men and realised this is a growing trend. I know about seven men who are single and not looking. These men have jobs and others own businesses that make money because we all know just because you own a business doesn’t mean it makes money, sometimes. 

I asked a friend why he’s not in a relationship and not looking, and he told me that he is focusing on himself and healing. He says it’s hard to do within a relationship sometimes because you have to focus on the other partner’s needs and you tend to neglect yours. He was going on dates here and there but he ended up deciding to stay single and focus on business. Another friend says dating is expensive nowadays, women want vacations to the Maldives etc and girlfriend allowance, basically paying a subscription to be loved. His female friends try to hook him up with their friends and he tells them that it’s pointless because he is not interested, his focus is money and building his business. 

Social media has changed the dating world drastically because you have so much choice. That pool though is not great quality at times, as much as there is a great pool of men – there isn’t always a great pool of women out there. I know that women always look at themselves as the good partners or good people compared to men but my thing is that you are single for a reason. If you were a good partner you wouldn’t be single and not every relationship ends because of cheating and not every relationship ends because of the guy either (but that’s another topic for another day).

We make decisions every day and all the decisions we have made have led us here, where you are in life. A lot of women never take accountability for picking a deadbeat baby daddy or terrible partner. Women control the dating scene because they know men want access to them and we will do anything to access them. Now money is the currency to access love hence the subscription and like any subscription when you don’t have money you don’t have access to Netflix anymore. No one wants to build anyone, everyone wants the finished product. A lot of men are opting out of the dating game because relationships don’t necessarily bring peace in their lives either, they are costly, they require time, time that you could be re-directing to something that will benefit you in the future like a career or a business. 

Sex is easier to get nowadays, you can have a situationship or an arrangement with someone – which is easier to manage and is cheaper as well. While you get all the time to focus on the things that matter to your future. Men have time on their side, they can start a family at 40 or 50 years old with a 30-year-old woman. By then they have the money, experience and they can focus on that one relationship they have been yearning for. So what are your thoughts on this recent trend?