It seemed so surreal, the words coming out of the dining room radio. My family and I were huddled around it in a tense silence, stunned. As if he could tell that we were struggling to comprehend what he said, the announcer on Radio Freedom, in an anguished voice, repeated, “They said it was an...
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Earning Less In A Relationship, Does It Make You Less Of A Man?
One is told about equal rights and partnerships yet the patriarchal roles of men “bringing home the bacon” still persist. Being a man is tough enough on its own without the issues of also needing to worry about making more money than your partner, who in these times of women finally getting recognized and almost...
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Mrs Right Guy
I caught the opening of the local film “Mrs. Right Guy” during opening weekend. I must say, the consistency of local films coming out recently is quite heartening. One gets the sense that “something is happening” for the local industry. Following on the massive success of “Love Is A Four Letter Word”, it has been...
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Blowing Her Own Socks Off …
There is a belief that women don’t like oral sex, changing this myth will have you practising oral sex for your own pleasure while he gets what he wants too. Do it because you want to and watch your enjoyment change. These are not rules but guidelines. There are no rules. Use your body and...
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Why I Love Black Men …
There’s always reason for us black women to complain about that ‘no good, lazy ass black man’. He’s always portrayed as a philandering, beer-guzzling specimen whose only worthwhile contribution has been sustaining an ancient myth about his ‘to-be-feared-by-god’ loins, which make him desirable to even the most chaste of virgins. Well, I want to be...
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New Music Discovered …
These are some of the new music we have discovered in the last couple of months and we have been enjoying the music. We thought maybe we should share as well, hope that you enjoy as well … Noah – Airport Bar. Lord SRMPY – REMEDY//SRMPYED I Hope We Never Break Up by Emmavie (feat Ego...
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The Burden of Emotion
I call it the burden of emotion, that “I’m okay” we all like saying when you really are not. You get to a point when you know that the burden of your emotional truth may not exactly get you the sympathy or the shoulder that you are so desperately in need of. There are a lot...
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My Man. My Everything.
I own a book with the deliciously attention grabbing title of “Change Your Man”. Occasionally I read it in public. It never fails to get attention. I’ll have women looking at it longingly, trying to make eye contact so they can ask about it, while men send me energetic poison arrows. One skinny little guy...
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Conversation with Kutlwano Ditsele
We had an opportunity to have a chat with the Marvin kinda guy, he once said this on Instagram and we thought it would be a good idea to start a conversation with Kutlwano Ditsele … No one ever goes out with the intention to produce bad work. Whether you are an accountant or a football...
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Why Can’t You Get a Man?
This is an excerpt form Kagiso‘s book The Goddess Mojo Bootcamp: Awesome relationships are an inside job, now on sale You Hate Men. In the beginning God created man, looked at him, paused and thought “Surely I can do better than this!” Can I get an amen! A surprising phenomenon, but one that makes a...