The Birth of a Father When I first thought about writing this, it was just after midnight. The computer I was busy on glowed a soft, dim light into my bedroom as I watched you sleep. You had passed out on my bed and I was too lazy to carry you to yours. It was...
Author: Vus Ngxande
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To Ask A Black Man How He’s Doing Has Become Taboo. You Good, Man?
As things stand today, to ask a black man how he’s doing has become taboo. To ask a black man how he’s doing is seen as an insult to those who suffer at the hands of a black man. It is to suggest that the world doesn’t have bigger problems and all must be cast aside to attend to the fragile
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Auntie – My Friend (Part 1)
I met Auntie some years ago. Actually, it was more like she forced her introductions onto me. She is a homeless lady. The scenic streets of Cape Town are laced with more homeless people than anywhere i’ve ever seen. Clearly photoshop comes in handy for the brochures. Anyway, that’s not the point of the story....
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Cape Town is not Racist. Cape Town is on some other tip on this one.
So the question is, is Cape Town an inherently racist? I’m not one for gross generalisations, that’s just retarded, so I thought it would help if I gave my first hand experience in race relations in the Mother City. Firstly, there is an assumption that racism is perpetrated by whites onto unsuspecting black. No fam,...
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Here’s the fallacy of “Not All Men”, as explained to an 8yr old
To say that black women have suffered more at the hands of black men than any other isn't to cast all black men as bad.
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Why Men Don’t Talk About Rape …
These were the last few lines of the rape campaign ad that featured Charlize Theron some years ago. Today, rape is back in the news and many women are lamenting these same sentiments. Questions are being asked, where are men in all of this rape pandemonium? Why are they not saying anything? Why aren’t they...
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Life Through A Young Black Man Over The Weekend.
The average upwardly mobile young black male in this decade can live a social life that, to the unsuspecting, can seem quite contradictory and marked by stark contrasts of influences, circumstances, means and social structure. Let’s look at a weekend in the life of Skhumba. It’s nearly 4pm on Friday, and he has spent
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South Africa A Nation of Psychopaths
What is happening is normal for a society that they have neglected the root of the very fear that stalks it. What is happening right now in our society is that our daughters are reaping what we have sowed in the minds of our sons. We can arrest every single adult male and send them to jail today
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Masculinity
There is a lot that can be said about the negative impact of patriarchy within our society. Much of this will hinge on the effects that how men abuse their strength
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Patriarchy (Part 1)
We need to talk. We need to talk about why we live in a society that lives in fear of the actions of misguided men. We need to look at what we have been teaching our boys that brought us here