I’ve never been called a bitch or is’febe by a total stranger simply because I didn’t smile for him, because he felt that I should. I’ve never been groped in public. I’ve never been threatened
Author: Vus Ngxande
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Dating A Single Father, Myths and Misconceptions about Single Fathers …
I put the term ‘single father’ inside quotation marks because the concept of single parenting is not as clean-cut as we often think.
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The Politics of Black Love in the Modern World
Both the man and the woman are expected to engage in a pursuit that is quite un-revolutionary; being an in a relationship together. It is within the confines of a relationship
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1976 – A Country Re-Imagined (Series)
Imagine. The 1976 uprising never happened. Mandela was never released. 1994 never happened. Freedom never came. My name is Hector Pieterson, I am 48 years old
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The Myth of the Single Father
The concept of a single father is not unlike someone discovering a unicorn. After the initial awe and excitement, one quickly realises that, actually, there’s not much one can do
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You Can’t Defend Black Men …
When I wrote that piece a few years, I was quite overwhelmed by the response. It seemed that people were genuinely touched by the sentiment of what I was trying to convey
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The Anatomy Of Mepako/Umpako (Ass)
What is guys' fascination with mepako? I mean really now! So what is the modern interpretation
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Belonging and Belongings
The other day I moved out. But I remember quite vividly the day I moved in. Life had done one of those weird things where your whole life collapses.
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Nice Weather Hey …
It is Spring and, as a friend says, amathanga ajabulile (the thighs are happy). Spring usually comes with quiet interesting
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When I First Encountered Sexual Intercourse
I remember the first time that I encountered sexual intercourse, I was around nine years old. Ou lady sent me next door to get something, I don’t quite remember what. The guy I was sent to had umkhukhu at the back, I went with a friend of mine and we knocked on the door. He...