There is a saying on social media that goes “it’s not that you are ugly, you are just broke”, and I am actually starting to believe parts of it. After a conversation with Marvin, I decided to follow his advice and in just a month, I can also see the difference. A lot of people have contributed towards this ‘image situation’ that I am working on.
Category: Understand Men Better
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The Beginning of a New Decade
We believed that men are important in society and their contribution should be highlighted and whether it's the bad things men do but also the good. A lot has changed but still the same with more violence towards women and children. Clearly the problem is still there and it's not getting dealt with
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Stepping Out of The Closet — The Big Deal
Generally, I avoid talking about when I came out of the closet to my parents. I avoid it because I’m not sure that I ever did. It's not so special to me, anyway. For one or other reason though, people's faces light up at any hint of a saucy story. To meet those expectations, I normally
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Understand Men Better: Sex As a Conflict Resolution Tool For Men
You grow up understanding that the only thing that matters is being 'physical', and that the emotional part should be saved for your wife or someone significant in your life. Even with that, no one teaches you how to approach that aspect of your life.
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Dear Black Men …
Dear Black Men: We love you; we need you. We know that it’s not easy to be a man. It’s not easy to be a woman, either; to be educated, career focussed, wanting to grow in love; be the other half that supports a family, supports a home. But we don’t know what it’s like...
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Protect The Boy Child (Part 1)
There is nothing wrong with being raised by a single mother, but as a man, you will always be looking for something that’s missing and that is a father figure. A father affirms you, he affirms who you are and what you are what you are and some of the mannerism
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Lunch with Steve Biko, Grandad & Shaka Zulu (Part 2)
Steve Biko, my grandfather, and Shaka Zulu have reached that point in where the conversation has dried up and everyone at the table is either staring into the distance
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Patriarchy (Part 1)
We need to talk. We need to talk about why we live in a society that lives in fear of the actions of misguided men. We need to look at what we have been teaching our boys that brought us here
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The Fallacy Of “Not All Men” (Part 1)
I’ve never been called a bitch or is’febe by a total stranger simply because I didn’t smile for him, because he felt that I should. I’ve never been groped in public. I’ve never been threatened
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Lunch with Steve Biko, Grandad & Shaka Zulu (Part 1)
I decided to invite Steve Biko and my late grandfather to a nice lunch at this great spot in Cape Town. For a reason that I'm still to understand, Shaka Zulu rocked up.