All men feel fear. The worst kind of fear is the image of the difference between where the brother is and where he thinks he ought to be. A simple math application has never been so unnerving. We are just scrambling for answers like the rest of the souls meandering here. Looking for an image...
Category: Understand Men Better
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Kojo Baffoe: Listen To Your Footsteps Book
Dreams continue to come true, I’ve heard about this book Listen To Your Footsteps for so long now it’s something else to see have it in my hands. I have started reading it and I’m experiencing Kojo Baffoe in a different light, I’m discovering things that I didn’t know about him but now certain things...
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Relationships: Dating Your Mother/Father
My relationship with my mother is the longest relationship that I’ve had with any woman. I was with my mother for 31 years. And out of her 50 years of living, she lived and experienced 31 years of those years with me. That makes her relationship with me the longest relationship which she has had...
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Love Lockdown: Relationships During Covid-19
When the first national lockdown started, a friend said she was praying for couples she thought were going to have it rough during lockdown. My first thought was, “This one is Miss Goodie Two-shoes vele. Of course, she’s praying.” I thought nothing more of it. It’s just over a year since that first lockdown and...
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Miss P: The Myth of Dating Younger Men (Ben 10)
Our columnist Miss P looks at misconceptions mature women face when they date younger men. Where did it all start? Remember the movie, How Stella Got Her Groove Back? It starred Angela Bassett and Taye Diggs and was based on the Terry McMillian book of the same name. The storyline: a mature woman fresh from...
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Conversations with Fiso Mazibuko and He is Not All About Sports
Q: Where are you from and what is about where you are from that influences the man that you are today? I am from the south coast of Durban, my parents’ first home was KwaBB in the township of Umlazi, I later spent a huge part of my childhood in Athlone Park & Amanzimtoti. Being...
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For Black Boys: The World is Resetting Itself. Welcome To The New World.
I called my cousin on the first day of 2020 and I said to her that this is a new decade and it’s a new beginning for everything, Those who were at the top will be at the bottom and those who were at the bottom will be at the top. Being 2021 and seeing...
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Practice Makes Perfect, This is How I Begin My Year …
I enjoy the good energy and vibes each new year brings, the motivational “this is my year sayings” gearing everyone up to tackle the year and hopefully win. I recently came back from a holiday in Mozambique, besides the days being over 37 degrees hot I got to experience the culture, food, markets, walks on...
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Men Who Cheat Are Mainly In It For the Emotional Validation
When it comes to the discussion of men who cheat, it is often reasoned that, well, men are unfaithful because they want sex. Hard stop. But more and more social research confirms that men cheat for reasons relating to emotional validation. They seek affair partners who will make them feel like their feelings are worthwhile, that their stories...
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Men Mature Too Fast.
Men mature too fast. You tell a man a problem, he skips the emotional turbulence and quickly flips to solution mode in the calmest manner to the point where he comes across as lacking emotion. That time you wanna vent and indulge in the pity, caress the negativity of the situation. You hear dudes say...