“Nisazohlukana”, I am seeing this word a lot on Twitter when people gush about their relationships. It’s an absolutely terrible notion, however facts are facts…it will end. Perhaps not all relationships will end in a nasty break-up, others will be amicable, many will make it past that stage and lead to marriage, some marriages will...
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I Wanna Be A Showgirl, I Dream About It Almost Daily
In my next life or, depending on your views on metaphysics, in my other life that continues parallel to this one that I am supposedly more aware of, I hope I’m a showgirl. I dream about it almost daily. The music, the costumes, the choreography, the fans, the feather boas… oh, the feather boas! That...
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Love In The Time of Kicking It (Part Two)
When I met her I remember saying that I don’t want a relationship, she responded with the words; as long as you are clear and upfront with what you want I am cool with it, so lets kick it. What does kicking it mean? What are the rules? Let me start from the beginning. We...
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Nairobi Nights: In My Clients’ Shoes
A day or so ago someone sent me an email wondering how I could get tired in my line of work. This was after I mentioned in my last post that I was planning to take a break. The author of the email assumed that since mine is the business of pleasure, there was no...
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80’s Babies – Music And Life (Part Four)
The thing about kwaito was that it was not universal; it was not for everyone and it had no intentions of being such. It was for the hood and only the hood and it was damn proud of the fact. Mandoza’s Nkalakatha’s crossover appeal was a flash in the pan but, kwaito was still too...
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The Ability To Start Strong
There is nothing greater in life than support, to have that extra bit of encouragement when you are tempted to give up. To be placed in a favourable or opportune position that will push you forward. We all want that, we all wish for that. Let’s be real, without someone having opened the door for...
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Secrets …
It’s not easy going through this wondering what people might say when they find out. I had to convince myself that there was nothing wrong with it at first. I went as far as practicing the whole thing by myself standing in front of the mirror. That was my thing back in high school, practice...
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What Jay-Z’s ‘Footnotes for 4:44’ reveals about celebrity relationships — and our own
Jay-Z’s latest album, “4:44,” has been praised for openly displaying his emotional vulnerability, most evident in the title track. “Footnotes for 4:44,” released Monday afternoon on Tidal, is an 11-minute video that takes this effort further, enlisting several famous men of color to dissect their relationships on camera. Publicity ploy or not, it’s refreshing to hear these honest reflections...
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I Was Depressed.
My father was shot dead a bit over two years ago. That day plays over and over in my mind as if I’d watched everything unfold on a TV screen. It was on a very cold and wet Wednesday evening when I received a call from my not so little sister, asking me to rush...
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He Said That I Have Agency
My friend says, as cool as the cabbro something drink that’s in front of her. I thought it was a mojito but she corrected me. I moved on quickly, knowing that I didn’t care to know. Frankly if it isn’t a gin and tonic, my keenness is at a level that is zero. “What does...