I own a book with the deliciously attention grabbing title of “Change Your Man”. Occasionally I read it in public. It never fails to get attention. I’ll have women looking at it longingly, trying to make eye contact so they can ask about it, while men send me energetic poison arrows. One skinny little guy...
Tag: relationships
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Black Father Syndrome …
Why is that so many of the issues that are faced by black society boil down to a defective fatherhood? Like a switch that flips somewhere in early adulthood, a black man has such a high chance of getting derailed, from what can be deemed a decent path, that it has become a norm for...
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One Night in, er… Heaven?
The worst thing about a one-night stand is looking for your underwear the morning after. You don’t know where to look, mostly because you’re seeing the room for the first time. You try to remember the sequence of events the night before, but all you get are involuntary flashback (sorta like electric shock waves going...
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Envy
Need… The ghost flourishes amongst the living. I am invisible in the worlds I live in; trivial and pedately belligerent. I shared a million more opinions than I should have – the self-righteous expediently label me a hoodwink and the free-spirited have an array of designations for me that range from cold-stone to rebel. If...
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Letters To My Younger Sisters …
Dear Miss Little Girl You’re cute and everything: and display a great amount of intellect and your sway is quite impressive, but I’m sorry to have to tell you that you are not the queen of all you survey. You particularly have no ownership over that sweet boyfriend of yours (or the women he will...
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The Perfect Man …
I’ve been paying particular attention to the messaging that is being thrown about in commemoration of Women’s Day and Month. By and large it’s about society acknowledging and embracing the virtues of womanhood. Basically, it’s about women being women above and beyond everything else, not just as mothers, wives, sisters, daughters and side chicks. As...
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Would You Date an Unemployed Man?
When hearing that I had been requested to write about relationships for Marvin, a friend of mine eagerly responded saying that he would be very interested in reading what I had to say. One of the reasons for this is that I have had what you could describe as an interesting relationship life. Not interesting...
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The Woman Every Man Needs …
”This is a salute to the woman that every man needs, The woman who was there before everything…” The one who opened the door at 4am, again, And didn’t ask a single question, Because she knew you were not proud Of the dark path your ambitions made you walk. Before you bought mom the...
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Happy Mothers Day …
This time Mama is on the cold red ground, her legs sprawled like she was about to take a step, and her face pillowed by dried vomit. It’s a cold Sunday morning, and people have started making their way to church, walking up the rusty road towards the sunrise like it marked the meeting place...
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Marvin’s Room 5th May 2016
Marvin welcomes you to your celebration, as a man. It is not easy being a man. It is not easy to have to know, to have to navigate, to have to juggle, to have to nurture, to have to build, to have to acquire; to have to achieve, to have to excel. But you are...