For most of human history, the dynamic between men and women was not equal—but it was stable. Each side understood its role, its leverage, and its expectations. Men operated under a powerful assumption: that women were more virtuous, more emotionally pure, and, in some sense, deserving of protection and belief. That assumption shaped everything—from chivalry...
During my single state of affairs, I had the opportunity to ask this one lady I was conversing with: “What kind of man do you want?” This question was one of those questions I totally was not interested in the answer for, but they are a prerequisite to the start of a relationship, affair, hook...
Somewhere along the line, the conversation shifted. A few decades ago, children were spoken about in the language of legacy, love, and family. Today, in too many corners of modern discourse, the tone has hardened. You hear phrases like “kids are expensive,” “there’s no benefit,” or the most jarring of all — the quiet implication...
If you listened to Metro FM recently, you may have heard a familiar explanation making the rounds: men are not dating because of porn. It’s a neat headline, but it doesn’t hold up when you speak to men on the ground. Based on conversations happening inside the Marvin community and beyond, porn is not the...
I remember when Cell C introduced the “Take a Girl Child to Work” initiative. At the time, I thought, “Cool, this works.” But the older I got, the more I realized that while the initiative was a great step forward, it could also have unintended consequences in the long run. Fast forward to today—we’re seeing...
Johannesburg – May 2025 If you’re looking to impress the most important woman in your life this Mother’s Day, Arbour Café has you covered with a curated culinary experience that goes beyond the ordinary. On Sunday, 11 May, treat Mom to a harvest-style brunch set in the serene courtyard of one of Johannesburg’s most charming hidden gems. From 8am...
There is a trend that I’m noticing that’s happening within relationships. Women are complaining that men don’t approach them anymore and men are not really interested in relationships. I didn’t think much of it at first but I started speaking to a couple of single men and realised this is a growing trend. I know...
Men have a special relationship with the ones who cut their hair. What makes the corner barber special is how therapeutic the chair is, the advice he gives and the fact that he just lends an ear to his clients. Sometimes men just want to talk about their lived experiences. Men don’t go to the barbershop...
Suicide remains one of the most pressing yet often overlooked public health challenges in South Africa. With the country grappling with economic hardships, social pressures, and mental health stigma, suicide rates have reached alarming levels. According to the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG), approximately 23 people die by suicide every day, with an...
WHERE ARE YOU? AND, WHERE IS SHE? If you are between the age of 25 and 35 you are at the height of your dating life. This is the point where you transition from youth into full-on adulthood. At 30 you more than a decade from high school and a decade to age 40, round...