The earliest memories I have of myself were with my brother, he is 3 years older than I am so my mom did everything for us together. We bathed and ate together, shared a bed and even went to the same school. When my brother was old enough to take care of me my mother...
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Men Online vs Men Offline
Ladies would agree with me on this one…the first thing they pay attention to when you send them a “Friend Request” is your profile pic, your photos, where you work, where you hang out and who you hang out with. I said “Friend Request” because really it has to be just that. So if you...
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Should I Settle The Score Now?
Fam allow me to share a story with you, about this girl that never wanted nor loved me when we were in high school… Her name is Mbali. She was that girl that always made her statement! She wasn’t that girl everyone wanted, of which is why I was more attracted to her. She was...
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Health Risks Of Chronic Masturbation
The Very Real Risks Of Too Much Solo Time, Revealed. You might not give a second thought to your masturbation, that private habit that relieves tension, makes you forget about your worries and hey, is a nice way to pass the afternoon. Since most men will begin to masturbate in their early adolescence and continue...
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Growing Up In Alex…
Growing up in Alex was interesting for me but I can imagine the fear my parents had for me. My father was an involved dad and I mean involved in every way possible. He never bought me All Stars because it was the kind of footwear thugs wore. Later in life I bought myself a...
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When Can Black People Emerge From ‘Emerging Markets’?
I’m exhausted and saddened by what happens on a daily basis in Corporate South Africa. I’m one of the few brownies who work in corporate South Africa and some of the things I hear and see leave me deflated. TIA. This is Africa. An acronym I feel usually rears its head to describe something negative...
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So There’s This Lady…
She gets me maaaan! Where do I even start? She really understands me. She makes me come alive. She’s the first to actually make me believe in myself after a long time of depression, stress, hurt and frustration that I’ve been through. She’s that one lady that you look at and you can’t help but...
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Morning Rituals To Change Your Life
Morning Rituals That Will change Your Life Mornings are not easy. We wake up and, immediately, the grind begins. We have somewhere to be, whether it’s school or work. We have things to do — sleep until the last possible minute, make ourselves presentable, try to swallow coffee — and not enough time to do...
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How To Drink Whisky…
To say whisky is an acquired taste would be stating the obvious. There’s a reason why teenagers head straight for WKDs and Lambrinis on their first forays into drinking, and not for a bottle of fine golden dram. But, like blue cheese, sushi or craft ale, learning to love whisky can be one of the...
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Nobody had told me …
Unfortunately, I entered corporate South Africa as myself. Nobody had told me that it was better to present a shrunken version of myself. Nobody had taught me to shrink so that others could be more comfortable with my black presence. Nobody had told me to be apologetic, for… existing as black, female and not a...