Just over a year ago, I made the bold and brave decision to stop drinking – forever. The decision was brave because I had built my life around drinking. I had been drinking for 20-plus years and, for a long time, I really enjoyed it. I revelled in going to wine farms when I was...
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Love Lockdown: Relationships During Covid-19
When the first national lockdown started, a friend said she was praying for couples she thought were going to have it rough during lockdown. My first thought was, “This one is Miss Goodie Two-shoes vele. Of course, she’s praying.” I thought nothing more of it. It’s just over a year since that first lockdown and...
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Miss P: The Myth of Dating Younger Men (Ben 10)
Our columnist Miss P looks at misconceptions mature women face when they date younger men. Where did it all start? Remember the movie, How Stella Got Her Groove Back? It starred Angela Bassett and Taye Diggs and was based on the Terry McMillian book of the same name. The storyline: a mature woman fresh from...
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Conversations with Fiso Mazibuko and He is Not All About Sports
Q: Where are you from and what is about where you are from that influences the man that you are today? I am from the south coast of Durban, my parents’ first home was KwaBB in the township of Umlazi, I later spent a huge part of my childhood in Athlone Park & Amanzimtoti. Being...
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For Black Boys: The World is Resetting Itself. Welcome To The New World.
I called my cousin on the first day of 2020 and I said to her that this is a new decade and it’s a new beginning for everything, Those who were at the top will be at the bottom and those who were at the bottom will be at the top. Being 2021 and seeing...
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Practice Makes Perfect, This is How I Begin My Year …
I enjoy the good energy and vibes each new year brings, the motivational “this is my year sayings” gearing everyone up to tackle the year and hopefully win. I recently came back from a holiday in Mozambique, besides the days being over 37 degrees hot I got to experience the culture, food, markets, walks on...
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Men Who Cheat Are Mainly In It For the Emotional Validation
When it comes to the discussion of men who cheat, it is often reasoned that, well, men are unfaithful because they want sex. Hard stop. But more and more social research confirms that men cheat for reasons relating to emotional validation. They seek affair partners who will make them feel like their feelings are worthwhile, that their stories...
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What to Expect This February 2021 on Netflix
The month of love is here and let’s face it, most of us will be spending it indoors cuddling up with our loved one. So, to keep you all loved up, Netflix has prepared its line-up for the February love fest which kicks off with the highly anticipated To All The Boys: Always And Forever....
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Men Mature Too Fast.
Men mature too fast. You tell a man a problem, he skips the emotional turbulence and quickly flips to solution mode in the calmest manner to the point where he comes across as lacking emotion. That time you wanna vent and indulge in the pity, caress the negativity of the situation. You hear dudes say...
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Once Upon a time in South Africa, Strange Men Invade Our Home
I want to tell you a story. I want to use YOU to tell this story. Imagine, one night, you and your family were peacefully sleeping in your home. It was a modest, humble abode, but it was your home. You grew up in that home, so did your father and his father before him…...