Q:What do you do for a living? I’m a comedian, writer, struggling actor and dreamer. Q:What is like to be a man in the modern day South Africa? To be a man in modern day South Africa is to be a man in any place during any era where men have existed. It is to...
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We Are The Neglected Generation
We are the neglected generation. We are a generation born to seekers. We are a generation born to the wrong people at the wrong time; born to people who wanted the sort of ‘more’ which maternity and paternity simply could not afford, could not provide. We are born to parents who wanted careers, who wanted...
Product of a Heart Break …
There is a nervousness that surrounds us, when we get excited about a new adventure, be it a beginning or an ending. There is also a sixth sense that women seem to have with everything in life. Some women tap into this sense with an ease and grace that belies the gravity of their life’s...
Why I Love Black Men …
There’s always reason for us black women to complain about that ‘no good, lazy ass black man’. He’s always portrayed as a philandering, beer-guzzling specimen whose only worthwhile contribution has been sustaining an ancient myth about his ‘to-be-feared-by-god’ loins, which make him desirable to even the most chaste of virgins. Well, I want to be...
My Man. My Everything.
I own a book with the deliciously attention grabbing title of “Change Your Man”. Occasionally I read it in public. It never fails to get attention. I’ll have women looking at it longingly, trying to make eye contact so they can ask about it, while men send me energetic poison arrows. One skinny little guy...
Conversation with Kutlwano Ditsele
We had an opportunity to have a chat with the Marvin kinda guy, he once said this on Instagram and we thought it would be a good idea to start a conversation with Kutlwano Ditsele … No one ever goes out with the intention to produce bad work. Whether you are an accountant or a football...
Black Father Syndrome …
Why is that so many of the issues that are faced by black society boil down to a defective fatherhood? Like a switch that flips somewhere in early adulthood, a black man has such a high chance of getting derailed, from what can be deemed a decent path, that it has become a norm for...
One Night in, er… Heaven?
The worst thing about a one-night stand is looking for your underwear the morning after. You don’t know where to look, mostly because you’re seeing the room for the first time. You try to remember the sequence of events the night before, but all you get are involuntary flashback (sorta like electric shock waves going...
Envy
Need… The ghost flourishes amongst the living. I am invisible in the worlds I live in; trivial and pedately belligerent. I shared a million more opinions than I should have – the self-righteous expediently label me a hoodwink and the free-spirited have an array of designations for me that range from cold-stone to rebel. If...
Letters To My Younger Sisters …
Dear Miss Little Girl You’re cute and everything: and display a great amount of intellect and your sway is quite impressive, but I’m sorry to have to tell you that you are not the queen of all you survey. You particularly have no ownership over that sweet boyfriend of yours (or the women he will...