It takes two to tango But: why Sis? It is unfair to slut-shame the other woman. It is wrong to single out the other woman, to put all the cheating blame on her But: why Sis? It is in fact the man who is the cheat; it is he who has been unfaithful; it is he who...
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Virtual Insanity (A Jamiroquai Reprise) …
I’m a relatively young woman- relative to my mother’s generation – and I’ve always found it difficult to date. I think that the problem might be me. My problem is that I dive – headfirst – into a ‘thing’ with a love interest. I’m an artist, so also a little sensitive (read crazy). I talk,...
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It Was A Mistake …
STORY I You’ve been chilling and kicking it with your friend at his spot. Telling stories and talking bs like normal adult men do. A little sip of something iced, a little sniff of something white, now there’s ‘a dragon pumping in your veins’. Maybe it was a dare, maybe a bet about who has...
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A Little Dead; A Little Scared; A Little Brave …
Sipho and I were in an accident, the other night. I made it, somehow, but Sipho wasn’t so lucky. Sipho is no more.And people have questions. My friends, my acquaintances, the people who stopped to help, the police, the paramedics, the doctor, the nurse, myself…people have questions. They have well-meaning but annoying; well-meaning but tedious; well-meaning...
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Rape (Part 2)
I didn’t see the rape video of the 17yr old mentally ill girl. But I have witnessed a rape. Yup, I actually watched it with my family. We huddled around a laptop in a dimly lit bedroom on a winter night. It was shocking but, well, not entirely life changing or enraging. Why not? Well,...
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Rape (Part 1)
There was a video of a 17 year old, mentally handicapped girl allegedly being raped by 7 men that went viral in South Africa. The country was up in arms at this appalling incident. There was anger and frustration from every sector about everything from woman and child abuse, lack of leadership, a lost youth to...
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Relationship PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) …
Friends, can we talk about relationship PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), many of us have it yet we simply brush it off, and don’t acknowledge its effect on us and our future relationships. If you would be honest with yourself for a minute, and look back at your past relationships, what pattern would emerge from...
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Trapped Ekasi : The Trial Of The 20 Something Successful Young African Woman Who Can’t Leave Home Till Prince Charming Comes Riding In a Red Golf 5 GTI.
“What is the point of being empowered and share the pedestal with a man in society if I still can’t leave home and worse, I have curfew at 25?” one lady asked. To know where you going you have to know where you come from, but you would agree that culture; tradition and customs could...
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Auntie – In The End (Part 3)
“I will not cry…I will not cry” Says Sinah, or Grapes – as her family called her. I call her Auntie. An elderly coloured lady who has become more of an emotional presence, than person I know. She says this as she uses my jersey to wipe her tears. Inhaling deeply to summon back the...
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Auntie – In The End (Part 2)
I’m anxious about what Auntie is about to tell me. The story of how she ended up living on the street, she had said. I’m anxious not just about the story but also because of the fact that I’m already late for my own farewell dinner. A farewell that I’m dreading because, at the end of...