I am around 10yrs old and I am at a family function. There are relatives everywhere in the yard and me and my younger cousins are sitting on a bench damn near licking our plates clean. My older cousin, ous Pankie, walks past, we like her a lot. She laughs at us with our mouths shiny...
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Why Women Love To Hate Men and Why Men Don’t Care
Sigh. I’m going to get into a lot of trouble for this. I know some women already have their left hooks ready and feminists are flexing their muscles. I’ll start by saying all this is my opinion and I always stand to be corrected and ladies, we love you ;)
Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Masculinity
There is a lot that can be said about the negative impact of patriarchy within our society. Much of this will hinge on the effects that how men abuse their strength
Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Patriarchy (Part 1)
We need to talk. We need to talk about why we live in a society that lives in fear of the actions of misguided men. We need to look at what we have been teaching our boys that brought us here
Dating A Single Father, Myths and Misconceptions about Single Fathers …
I put the term ‘single father’ inside quotation marks because the concept of single parenting is not as clean-cut as we often think.
Baby Daddy Part 5 (Finale)
“…sometimes to go as you expected with a pregnancy and then you have to seriously consider termination”, these are the gynecologists words after a routine scan when my girlfriend was about 6 months pregnant. What? Huh? Please note that this dude just said this out of the blue. “Terminate? Why would we do that?” I...
Baby Daddy (Part 4)
It is the fourth of February 2008. A month and a half has passed since my girlfriend and I told our families that are going to be parents. She is about 3 months pregnant. It’s 2:30am on a Monday morning and my phone rings, it’s my brother. “It’s bad news”, he says. With those three...
Baby Daddy (Part 3)
“LENGANE IYADELELA! How dare he come into our family without any elders from his house? Who does he think he is? Looking someone’s mother in the eye and telling that rubbish!” My girlfriend’s grandmother was breathing fire and brimstone. Yes fam, the wheels of my flaming ‘I want to do right’ chariot had come off...
Baby Daddy (Part 2)
I don’t know what it would take for you to hear the heartbeat of your own child and then decide to do an abortion. Whatever it takes, I didn’t have it. My girlfriend had already decided she was keeping the baby. I was late in my decision. On hearing the heartbeat my I nearly fell...
Baby Daddy (Part 1)
A loose definition of the modern man is a hustler, dreamer, hard worker and this is besides his other, more formal job titles. But there is one job title that puts fear into many modern man, and that is “fatherhood”. Let’s break bread and let me tell you MY story. What does two lines mean?...