It has been a while since I engaged with other people on this topic. A life hack that I can share with any guy who is about to become a father is this: From the day your child is born, figure out what your child (and partner, if that’s the case) need at the moment...
Category: Fathers
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The Benefits to Children of a fully involved Dad and the Dangers of Dad Deprivation.
What is the boy crisis? It’s a crisis of education. For the first time in American history, our sons will have less education than their dads. It’s a crisis of mental health. As boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women. It’s a crisis...
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Perception of Black Fathers Changing For The Better
The perception of black fathers is changing and we are here for it, this year’s Father’s Day was much more peaceful on social media compared to the other years when it was changing to a “happy father’s day to my mother”. I don’t think the idea is about muting single mothers who have to play...
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I am. Not. A Father.
Its Father’s Day this coming Sunday, a day I love and hate in equal proportion. I love it because I come from a home of amazing fathers
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10 Things I Learned In My 160 Days as Mihla’s Father
1. Parenting a baby is all about poop. What colour is it? When last did they poop? Did they struggle while pooping? Do we have enough nappies for the next 10 poops? Let me take a picture of this poop to show the doctor. Now your gallery is full of poop. 2. There will be...
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The Wound Of A Father That We Don’t Speak About
A true father goes through many unspeakable experiences to continue to be a father. When he goes out daily in search of bread for his household, he sustains many mental injuries he does not discuss with his family. His wife and children may not be able to stand the pains he goes through if he...
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How Did We Become A Fatherless Society?
I attended a funeral over the weekend and as per usual, all the speakers had great things to say about the deceased.
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As Men, When We Abandon Our Children, We Make Our Enemies Happy.
I am very conscious about my blackness, and have instilled a strong sense of black pride in my kids. They know who they are and they love their skin, their hair and everything about them that makes them black. We need that in this world that works really hard to beat us down because of...
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My Abusive Mother, Let’s Have That Conversation …
Growing up, one would always hear about deadbeat fathers/uncles/brothers and all the abuse they came with – emotionally, psychologically and physically too.
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I’m Not Happy With My Son’s Progress In Life
I hope the title isn’t uncomfortable for anybody. But I am comforted by this notion that parenting doesn’t come with a manual, so I guess I will write my own parenting guide book. Perhaps this right here will part of that chapter. By the way, he is five (5). Do you guys ever feel like...