What if he leaves without finding out that I love him? But more tragically, what if he leaves before I have found out whether I love him? Is it love when it is untested, when it hasn’t gone to battle and won, when it has not been wounded, has not been beaten, when it has endured...
Category: Relationships
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Note To Self …
I’ve learned a few things about love. I’ve also learned to discern between love and infatuation. Some lessons more cruel than others. Some moments more endearing and heart felt but what’s important is that they were all appreciated. I’ve learned that to love another and appreciate being loved really does start from within. Not just...
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Why I Love Black Men …
There’s always reason for us black women to complain about that ‘no good, lazy ass black man’. He’s always portrayed as a philandering, beer-guzzling specimen whose only worthwhile contribution has been sustaining an ancient myth about his ‘to-be-feared-by-god’ loins, which make him desirable to even the most chaste of virgins. Well, I want to be...
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My Man. My Everything.
I own a book with the deliciously attention grabbing title of “Change Your Man”. Occasionally I read it in public. It never fails to get attention. I’ll have women looking at it longingly, trying to make eye contact so they can ask about it, while men send me energetic poison arrows. One skinny little guy...
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Why Can’t You Get a Man?
This is an excerpt form Kagiso‘s book The Goddess Mojo Bootcamp: Awesome relationships are an inside job, now on sale You Hate Men. In the beginning God created man, looked at him, paused and thought “Surely I can do better than this!” Can I get an amen! A surprising phenomenon, but one that makes a...
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Building Relationships …
If you believe that being a good person and working hard will get you far in life – this article is for you. Let me tell you a story… So, I am fresh from college and I just got my first job at TBWA\Hunt\Lascaris. At the time, they had said that they don’t do internships...
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Would You Date an Unemployed Man?
When hearing that I had been requested to write about relationships for Marvin, a friend of mine eagerly responded saying that he would be very interested in reading what I had to say. One of the reasons for this is that I have had what you could describe as an interesting relationship life. Not interesting...
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Happy Mothers Day …
This time Mama is on the cold red ground, her legs sprawled like she was about to take a step, and her face pillowed by dried vomit. It’s a cold Sunday morning, and people have started making their way to church, walking up the rusty road towards the sunrise like it marked the meeting place...
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I Hope We Never Break Up
You have awakened my heart You have got me loving You have got me hoping I hope we never break up You have got me envisioning Suddenly there are pictures in my brain, pictures sent from my heart and borrowed from your eyes and your the-world-is-alright laugh Suddenly there is a home for me, something...
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The Thing, and The Fight to Fall …
I have never been good at relationships. Particularly, I have never been good at romantic relationships. Something about them seems to me unnatural. Actually, a lot seems unnatural. There is the rushed togetherness. There is the relentlessly pursued sense of oneness. There is the expected sharing of the self, the packing into little conversations of...