Cheating is at its most fashionable. Its become a societal norm, the accepted disability of our communities if you will. But why do people cheat? The answer to that may point to historical and societal factors that are not often spoken about or acknowledged in the public sphere. Free Love In the mid 1960’s a...
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Product of a Heart Break …
There is a nervousness that surrounds us, when we get excited about a new adventure, be it a beginning or an ending. There is also a sixth sense that women seem to have with everything in life. Some women tap into this sense with an ease and grace that belies the gravity of their life’s...
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So, This Visa Thing …
“Eish gents, I can’t come watch the match today. I didn’t get my Visa” “Tjovitjo bafethu! I have my Visa, where’s the party at?” Aah yes, the almighty powerful Visa. A symbol of momentary freedom and the promise of adventure to the many a men bound by the shackles of a committed relationship. Ok, ok,...
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Last Nights Party …
Flirtation has always been a challenge for me, and yet I’ve never been the shy type. I was the kid who sang a special rendition of Brenda Fassie’s Weekend Special to impress my mother’s visitors. I was the one who would show the uncool kids the latest dance move. And yet on the other hand,...
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What If He Leaves Without Finding Out That I Love Him?
What if he leaves without finding out that I love him? But more tragically, what if he leaves before I have found out whether I love him? Is it love when it is untested, when it hasn’t gone to battle and won, when it has not been wounded, has not been beaten, when it has endured...
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Note To Self …
I’ve learned a few things about love. I’ve also learned to discern between love and infatuation. Some lessons more cruel than others. Some moments more endearing and heart felt but what’s important is that they were all appreciated. I’ve learned that to love another and appreciate being loved really does start from within. Not just...
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Change Is Real And Growing Up Ain’t For Kids …
A lot has happened in the past few months. The year is almost half way through and I’m proud to say that I’ve checked off two items on my list. Oh forgive me for being rude, apologies for my silence like I said a lot has been happening. Over the past month, I’ve come to...
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The Almost Naked Truth …
So I’ve taken up the Lingerie Goddess’s 30 day lingerie diet by Margaret Shrum. It is basically a month long excercise to inspire and develop your sensuality as a woman. My love for lingerie is the reason I joined this diet on a quest to learn more and feed my obsession. Initially I thought that...
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1976 – A Country Re-Imagined (End)
I was pulled down into a crouching position in the dark passage as the crowd chanted past, down the street. I fought off the hands that held me. I looked at the person; he let out a white teethed smile in the dark. It was Themba. He was also a messenger. We had, sort of,...
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1976 – A Country Re-Imagined (Part 3)
It seemed so surreal, the words coming out of the dining room radio. My family and I were huddled around it in a tense silence, stunned. As if he could tell that we were struggling to comprehend what he said, the announcer on Radio Freedom, in an anguished voice, repeated, “They said it was an...