I caught the opening of the local film “Mrs. Right Guy” during opening weekend. I must say, the consistency of local films coming out recently is quite heartening. One gets the sense that “something is happening” for the local industry. Following on the massive success of “Love Is A Four Letter Word”, it has been...
Author: Vus Ngxande
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The Woman Every Man Needs …
”This is a salute to the woman that every man needs, The woman who was there before everything…” The one who opened the door at 4am, again, And didn’t ask a single question, Because she knew you were not proud Of the dark path your ambitions made you walk. Before you bought mom the...
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As Men, Do We Know How To Engage With Women And Engage On Women’s Issues?
As men, do we know how to engage with women and engage on women’s issues? We are sons, brothers, uncles, husbands, boyfriends, friends of women who deal with a myriad of economic, physical, mental and sexual assaults on each and every day. In 2016 silence is tantamount complicity. We can’t just throw around imaginary threats...
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How To 80/20 Your Life …
In 1906 there was an Italian economist named Vilfredo Pareto. One day Pareto noticed that every year, 20% of the pea pods in his garden produced approximately 80% of the peas. This got him thinking about economic output on a larger scale. Sure enough, he began to find that in various industries, societies and even...
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How I Came To Understand My Male Privilege By Experiencing Racism …
A few months ago, I was watching a documentary about the history of the formation of our country with my son . It touched on topics such as slavery, colonisation and apartheid. While we were watching he turned to me and asked, ‘Papa, why did white people do this to us?’ It is not that...
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Happiness Is A Four Letter Word: The Men
The movie “Happiness Is A Four-Letter Word” opened a few weeks ago with record breaking stats in just 10 days. By all intents and purposes, the film – a screen adaptation of the book by the same name, written by Cynthia Jele – is a chick flick; the three leads are all women, namely, Nandi...
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child: Being A Black Man
To talk about rebuilding the black male child is a process of understanding what being black is and what being a man is. But more fundamentally, it is a process of unlearning and ‘unteaching’. First and foremost, you are not black. You are an ever-changing landscape of brown tones and tan palms. The concept of...
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Kojo Baffoe – Life Aficionado …
There are innumerable definitions of what the measure of a modern man is; each one has a brush wielded by subjective hand seeking to land a mark on an already soaked canvas of pop-opinion. However, there are men who don’t wait for society to paint a picture of who they should be. These are men...
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Entitlement (Part 3)
Entitlement The idea of entitlement is sometimes confused with some sense of ownership. This is partly true. Ownership is a very simple concept; a state of being an owner. Also, ownership of material objects or entities is very simple to understand. But, entitlement in our society takes a different form when it comes to men...
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Rebirth of Black …
Remember when you finished high school? It was your first taste of how life calls on you to make decisions that don’t involve your friends. You realised that friendship is not necessarily forever. Pacts made about pursuing the same careers don’t work out. You realised that driving a Ferrari is easier said than bought. Your...