Grief is something else, it can make you cold, make you isolated as well.
Category: Fatherhood
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Sushi Babies …
I first came into “contact” with sushi when I was 17 years old, I was in Matric and my well off friend Andre brought some for our history class. I honestly did not like the idea of raw fish, but he insisted and so together with a few of my classmates I had sushi for...
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Mini Cooper Countryman – Car For New Fathers
I remember early in 2017, Mini invited me to the media launch and we drove though the Natal midlands and the Countryman handled its own very well. The Mini Countryman is called an SAV (Sports Activity Vehicle) and its meant to handle difficult terrain. Now I believe that before you buy an SUV or SAV...
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Baby Daddy Part 5 (Finale)
“…sometimes to go as you expected with a pregnancy and then you have to seriously consider termination”, these are the gynecologists words after a routine scan when my girlfriend was about 6 months pregnant. What? Huh? Please note that this dude just said this out of the blue. “Terminate? Why would we do that?” I...
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Baby Daddy (Part 4)
It is the fourth of February 2008. A month and a half has passed since my girlfriend and I told our families that are going to be parents. She is about 3 months pregnant. It’s 2:30am on a Monday morning and my phone rings, it’s my brother. “It’s bad news”, he says. With those three...
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Baby Daddy (Part 3)
“LENGANE IYADELELA! How dare he come into our family without any elders from his house? Who does he think he is? Looking someone’s mother in the eye and telling that rubbish!” My girlfriend’s grandmother was breathing fire and brimstone. Yes fam, the wheels of my flaming ‘I want to do right’ chariot had come off...
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Baby Daddy (Part 2)
I don’t know what it would take for you to hear the heartbeat of your own child and then decide to do an abortion. Whatever it takes, I didn’t have it. My girlfriend had already decided she was keeping the baby. I was late in my decision. On hearing the heartbeat my I nearly fell...
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Baby Daddy (Part 1)
A loose definition of the modern man is a hustler, dreamer, hard worker and this is besides his other, more formal job titles. But there is one job title that puts fear into many modern man, and that is “fatherhood”. Let’s break bread and let me tell you MY story. What does two lines mean?...
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There Are More Stepdads Than Ever. But It’s Still A Tough Gig.
Fifty years ago, a nuclear family of two biological parents and children was the norm.The American family is evolving. But divorce rates and growing numbers of single parents have opened up more opportunities for the formation of stepfamilies (one biological parent, one nonbiological parent plus children of the biological parent). Today, over 50 percent of families include partners who...
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New Dad Survival Tips to Get You Through the First Month
What new dads need to know about the care and feeding of their brand new human. Babies don’t emerge from their mothers with tips for new dads in hand. They come out with placentas, which have little post-natal value to anyone. That’s a pity because the first five months of parenthood are often profoundly confusing. A dad...