A few months ago, I was watching a documentary about the history of the formation of our country with my son . It touched on topics such as slavery, colonisation and apartheid. While we were watching he turned to me and asked, ‘Papa, why did white people do this to us?’ It is not that...
Category: Understand Men Better
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Ten Commandments for the Modern Man ….
Well, you see I have a lot of male friends. In fact, I can count the number of female friends I have on one hand. I’ve always been drawn to men. Even when I get to a mixed group of people, I always find myself gravitating towards the men. I find women strange and rather...
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child: Being A Black Man
To talk about rebuilding the black male child is a process of understanding what being black is and what being a man is. But more fundamentally, it is a process of unlearning and ‘unteaching’. First and foremost, you are not black. You are an ever-changing landscape of brown tones and tan palms. The concept of...
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Dear African Man …
Dear African Man, I saw you standing to the side with your head held high, broad torso and wise eyes, trying not to draw attention to your magnetic presence. I noticed that you endured wars, suffered my humiliation, and labels like Garcon! Boy! N***er! whilst still holding your ego in check. I walked towards you...
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There Are No Men Like Me …
It sounds like an arrogant thing to say but really I feel that men like me are a true rarity. I’m that man that always opens the car door for his woman, that will offer to carry heavy bags for any woman and that will stop and help a woman who is struggling with a...
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Lunch with Steve Biko, Grandad & Shaka Zulu (Part 3)
There’s gunshots everywhere and kids in their school uniforms running for their lives. The teargas scrapes my throat and I could swear my eyes bled. I struggle to see through smoke to catch a glimpse of the moving mouth of a dying Hector Peterson as he lay on the street taking his last breath. His...
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Conversation with Menzi Mcunu
Q: What do you do for a living? A: I am currently studying a bachelor of social science degree at the University of Cape Town however I also do creative consulting through a photographic collective that I have co-founded – Made in Johannesburg and run a bespoke menswear lifestyle brand – Afrocentric Gentlemvn Q: What...
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Lunch with Steve Biko, Grandad & Shaka Zulu (Part 3)
There’s gunshots everywhere and kids in their school uniforms running for their lives. The teargas scrapes my throat and I could swear my eyes bled. I struggle to see through smoke to catch a glimpse of the moving mouth of a dying Hector Peterson as he lay on the street taking his last breath. His...
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The Struggling Feminist Man
And so we find ourselves in a time, as in all of recent time, where we are at war with each other and ourselves. No generation before us has known such division amongst people. It seems, like in most relationships, life was better before we met, before Columbus met the Native Americans and the commencement...
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Leading The Way …
Contrary to popular belief, leadership and power are not synonymous. There are many individuals with influence and power that are not particularly leaders. The perfect example is Oprah Winfrey, she is such an influential personality and is considered one of the most powerful women in the world, however, she is not a leader in the...