The Benefits to Children of a fully involved Dad and the Dangers of Dad Deprivation.
What is the boy crisis? It’s a crisis of education. For the first time in American history, our sons will have less education than their dads. It’s a crisis of mental health. As boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women. It’s a crisis of sexuality. Sex is a minefield for our sons. They’re bombarded with mixed messages, afraid of being either too sensitive or not sensitive enough. It’s a crisis of fathering. Boys with less-involved fathers are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison. It’s a crisis of purpose. Boys’ old senses of purposes, being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner, are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a “purpose void,” feeling alienated, withdrawn and addicted to immediate gratification. Compounding this issue are addicting video games that lead to distraction and ADHD.So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policy-makers can do to renew our sons’ sense of purpose to help them become men, fathers, and leaders worthy of our respect.
- Teenagers whose dads and moms live separately but who have equal time with both parents were more easily able to make friends.
- Both boys and girls suffer after their parents divorce, but the greatest feelings of deprivation and depressive behavior were observed among boys.
- Children with father loss have by age of nine, a 14% reduction in telomere length – the most reliable predictor of life expectancy.
- Adolescents with minimal or no father involvement account for 71% of high school dropouts. They are also more likely to skip school, be kicked out ( expelled)
- The most frequent a father visits the hospital of an infant who is born prematurely, the more quickly the infant is released from the hospital and the better the infants social -personal development and ability to adapt
- Students coming from present father families score higher in math and science even when they come from weaker schools
- Father involvement is at least five times as important in preventing drug use than closeness to parent, parental rules, parent trust, strictness.
- Living in a home without a dad has a greater correlation with suicide among teenagers than any other factor
- Among pre-school children admitted as psychiatric patients…80% came from homes without fathers
- The amount of time a father spends with a child is one of the strongest predictors of the child’s ability to empathize as he gets older
Source : Farrell, W & Gray, J ( 2019). The Boy Crisis: Why our boys are struggling and what we can do about it.