So the question is, is Cape Town an inherently racist? I’m not one for gross generalisations, that’s just retarded, so I thought it would help if I gave my first hand experience in race relations in the Mother City. Firstly, there is an assumption that racism is perpetrated by whites onto unsuspecting black. No fam,...
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My Boyfriend Has A Girlfriend …
They are happy
He makes her sandwiches
She gets to smell his crisp scent, of nourishing nothingness
He gives her neck-kisses in the morning, tells her she is loved, he loves her and wishes her a great day
She gets to take him in
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Dear Black Men …
Dear Black Men: We love you; we need you. We know that it’s not easy to be a man. It’s not easy to be a woman, either; to be educated, career focussed, wanting to grow in love; be the other half that supports a family, supports a home. But we don’t know what it’s like...
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Patriarchy (Part 1)
We need to talk. We need to talk about why we live in a society that lives in fear of the actions of misguided men. We need to look at what we have been teaching our boys that brought us here
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Here we go again!
Those who know me, will know that I don’t usually rant about the goings on of the world, as such please allow me to drop a few words into this miasma of perfunctory speech we find ourselves in. Firstly I am a black female South African. So the barrage of constant unsavoury rhetoric aimed at...
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Why I Love Black Men …
There’s always reason for us black women to complain about that ‘no good, lazy ass black man’. He’s always portrayed as a philandering, beer-guzzling specimen whose only worthwhile contribution has been sustaining an ancient myth about his ‘to-be-feared-by-god’ loins, which make him desirable to even the most chaste of virgins. Well, I want to be...
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Marvin Conversations: The Thing and The Fight to Fall (Power FM 98.7)
The Thing and The Fight to Fall – When you have spent your life ducking and diving commitment for whatever reasons and unexplainable fear, until you find that one person who makes you want to fight to fall. Join the Marvin conversation with Aphelele Somi as she grapples with issues of commitment. What are the...
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Rebuilding The Black Male Child – Entitlement (Part 3)
Entitlement The idea of entitlement is sometimes confused with some sense of ownership. This is partly true. Ownership is a very simple concept; a state of being an owner. Also, ownership of material objects or entities is very simple to understand. But, entitlement in our society takes a different form when it comes to men...
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Woman, Take your Place …
At my previous job there was an elderly gentleman, who one day in a lift exclaimed ‘you know women were never meant to work, they have never been built for it. They should be at home tending after the children. This work thing isn’t for you’. At the time we were about 4 people in...
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Marvin’s Room: Nelson Makamo
Marvin welcomes you to your celebration, as a man. It is not easy being a man. It is not easy to have to know, to have to navigate, to have to juggle, to have to nurture, to have to build, to have to acquire; to have to achieve, to have to excel. But you are...