One skill and mindset that a man but harness and if he is to become men amongst men and a man to himself.

A lot of men fail because they do not know how to finish. You can’t easily detect this impediment but what you know what you are looking at, you can see the glaring signs. watch what happens to children who learned from childhood to finish and take tasks to their max. A lot of successful entrepreneurs and husbands are people who once or more times finished something and took it to their fullest potential at the time. It could be that they participated in sports at the highest level in primary or high school. Or people who finish some type of qualification they chose to take on after high school and not forced or had to do because of lack of opportunity to choose better. Things THEY CHOSE to start.

It’s not about the task, it could be anything. It’s what they become while pursuing to finish.

They learn to visualise, keep discipline and achieve set goals. They believe it’s possible because some time in their lives they chose something, invested energy into and defeated others and achieved the full status of that task. That’s what life is all about in anything. The things we do not choose happen to us and we do not need to finish them, we just need to survive them. Take Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg who dropped out of University but also notice that they qualified to be accepted in those schools in the first place. They took high school education to the maximum hence it was familiar territory to take their businesses to the fullest potential and become notable businessmen then naturally husbands with children.

Women always want men who win, they wait at the finish line of life and fuck the winner.

Women don’t care about your dreams, they care about you achieving your dreams. They don’t want to be busy with a guy who is always telling them what he will achieve, while he fails daily tasks towards that dream. A man can be smart, have potential and have great ideas, good connections and skills but continuously fail, even when he wins he loses everything in a short space of time. It might be that he keeps getting drunk, is unhealthy, promiscuous, overly attached to friends. Even when you keep getting women interested in you because of your potential or past wins, they will soon enough see through you on how much of a loser you are. This is because you are not finishing daily tasks, she will leave you or start fucking a guy like you but who finishes daily tasks towards his dream even if he is broker or dumber than you.

As a man you have to FINISH, ALL MEN instinctively know they have to learn how to finish.

We are born sort of useless as men. By a very young age a girl who is beautiful and kind is favoured by parents and the community already treats her well and wish her a good husband. She gets pretty privileges, even thousands of followers just for having a pretty face or body when she gets on social media. Things she did not work for.

We, MEN, have to build value, for example, only if we are great at something in high school, do we have girls’ attention. Things that take effort like studying hard to be the smart guy, or going to practice every day to be great at sports, or hustling money to buy expensive clothes others can’t even dance our asses off to entertain the whole school. When we do these things we demonstrate to women that we are fit, capable, confident and take the role of manhood and leadership seriously even at a young age. From there they can bet that you are a man to have and keep even though they are not aware that they are auto-responding to millions of years of the evolution of masculine and feminine essence. We intuitively know as men that without effort we don’t get to fuck anything, we will never smell that slight metallic scent of pussy.

We know but we use it wrong.

Unfortunately, many young men use the skill of finishing uselessly. We court a woman for months or years and sleeping with her is the finish. Quickly losing interest after we have slept with her to our satisfaction, it could even be once. We go on to repeat this with other women again and again instead of using it to grow in our lives. We end up being the ‘what happened to him? He was so what back then’ type of guys.

The sins of the fathers…

We have a lot of baby mamas roaming because, at the time of conceiving the child, the guy had potential. But after the baby all of a sudden he never has money, he is not fathering, he actually sucks in his career, he is a drunkard everything falls apart for him because of not wanting to finish what he started. He may have faked the level of money he has, he may have lied to the woman about his capabilities to a point that she was attracted enough to mother a child with him, but he is not a finisher and she finds out after the fact.

Had we been taught as young men how to finish, we would marry or properly father children we make. But what do we have? We have men being boys with children they are left with mothers to finish the job while life finishes him.

Banele Rewo Photographer: Adrian McDonalds

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