A lot of lying happened in December, those scenarios and flings expired on the 1st. That being said, why is it that men seem to enjoy disturbing the peace of women.

Here is a single woman, happy. She’s upwardly mobile, she has her life relatively together. Financially stable, she’s intelligent and well groomed too, in simple terms she’s a catch. Along comes a male homosapien who just wants to bother her and disturb her peace.

They meet (under various circumstances) and essentially hit it off. Numbers are exchanged and in no time the banter begins. He’s calling and texting, asking her on dates – he’s pursuing her and she’s reciprocating. In no time, her day starts and ends with messages from him. They start hanging out and seeing each other frequently – go monate… or so she thought.

Then the communication becomes less frequent, “good morning/good night” is no more. She sits there and starts wondering if it all happened? Was it a figment of her imagination that there was a man actively pursuing her? The questions just don’t end, she wondered endlessly and questions her self as to what she did wrong?

Now, this is no made up story – this is reality. It has happened to many women, myself included and to this very day I cannot come up with a remotely logical reason as to why this happens? Why do the sons of other women enjoy disturbing our peace? Did they get bored? Was it just the whole “men are hunters” mentality and getting a particular woman satisfies the desire to conquer? Is it just a sick game men enjoy playing with unassuming women? I’d like to believe that one wouldn’t go through so much effort to just hit it, sex is so easily available hle – why so many lies? The truth is we just don’t know why guys do it.

Seeing as it’s a new year, we humbly request that our peace is not disturbed. Let’s just have honest conversations where intentions are made clear from the beginning, don’t make women believe something different based on actions. If you want to just sleep with her, make it clear – be man enough to let her know and allow her the ability to make a conscious decision in terms of being with you.

If you want to play games, rather move on and do not disturb us and waste our time. We could be entertaining your games and ignoring people who are more serious.

Writer: Palesa Motau